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The Question: Do you need something thats NOT therapy?

  • Is it just not your type of thing and you’re not interested in doing it?
  • Do you already know what you need to do but never do it?
  • Does it end up being one expensive venting session?
  • Are you taking action, making changes and seeing consistent genuine improvements from your sessions?

Now I’m NO therapist,… in ANY way…What so ever!
But I have noticed the common pro’s and con’s of it. In this post we are clearly focusing on the cons, where and how its lacking for a good chunk of people.

The Answer: Focus on the shit that actually makes a difference

So many people have these same issues or thoughts when it comes to therapy. Mental health has been such a huge topic of discussion for years now, Its something everyone has been trying to improve and provide support for but as they say: too much of a good thing can be bad.

In 2024, 43% of adults say they feel more anxious than they did the previous year, up from 37% in 2023 and 32% in 2022. And that’s just the stats for anxiety. I wont even get into the long list of new disorders they keep adding to each new addition of the DSM ( Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders)
Things with mental health just seem to be getting worse, yet more people then ever are now going to therapy. From 2020-2023 the number of people in the U.S receiving mental health treatment increased by around 17.46%.

It seems that it’s become a fad to self diagnose ourselves and others, We are so focused on being able to identify ourselves as a disorder, to find a reason or an excuse for our choices and actions and why we are the way we are. Aren’t we over labeling everyone as a narcissist? All of these words are just being thrown around by EVERYONE. And what is it even accomplishing at this point? It seems to be just perpetuating this cycle of bullshit, keeping everyone stuck in their misery. Cool you self diagnosed yourself or someone else, how do you feel now? Is calling that person a narcissist or saying you have anxiety actually helping you in any way? Or does it just make you feel valid and justified for 5 minutes and you go straight back to feeling and doing exactly what you always do? Repeating the same cycles? Getting the same results, Standing in the exact same spot as you were last week, last month, or last year?

KEY TAKE AWAYS:
1. We are all struggling
2. We are all attempting to improve
3. We are all going about it in an unproductive way
4. We are all putting our focus on the wrong shit

What to do:

  • Decide that your sick of the same old cycles
  • Start focusing on what’s GOOD in your life
  • Choose to do something DIFFERENT

I don’t care if the only good thing you can manage to find in your life is being able to wake up and brush the teeth that are attached to your mother fucking head cause guess what, there’s people who don’t so choose to be fucking happy that you do!!! Or if the only different thing you can commit to right now is getting up 15 minutes earlier then what you normally do. Just pick one thing that is good and your going to consciously choose to focus on through your day. And pick one thing that’s different then what your normally do AND DO IT EVERY FUCKING DAY.
Put an alarm in your phone to remind yourself, put sticky notes all over the place, put a picture of your god damn teeth as your phone background.

I know it sounds ridiculous, but I also know the majority of you people can’t get the simple shit done. And depending on your perceived severity of your issue you might just have to start at the very fucking basics. And there’s nothing wrong with that. So its up to you to decide if you’re going to choose to be happy that you have all or most of your fucking teeth or if you choose to be miserable about the same shit you always are.

Why this works:

  • Happiness is a choice
  • YOU choose every second of every day what you are putting your focus on
  • YOU choose what you spend your time and energy doing
  • YOU choose what you allow into your life

And because of these 4 simple ass facts, its simply you that’s most likely the problem in your life (yes yes i know i know you have a long ass list of other people and they are the problem for this reason and that reason, And life is so hard and you have all these reasons your stuck. Chill the fuck out sally this is a blog post and I’m obviously not talking about that) But you get to mother fucking choose what you allow and where your energy and focus goes. And soo many people choose to stay stuck, and yes there’s lots and lots of valid reasons for that, but you sitting there doing the same shit makes you equally apart of the problems in your life. There is ALWAYS a way to figure the shit out. And lucky for you, I have started this blog…. and I’m for sure….basically….most likely….. probably a pro at this exact shit. Sooo luuuucky you haha.

Want more…?

…..of my glorious blabbing?!?!

Ok you got it!

None of us have it figured out. And thank fuck for that cause what a boring world it would be.

I defiantly don’t have it figured out lmao.
Like most, I struggle with following through sometimes, Procrastination, as they call it. There’s things I want to do but don’t do. So many improvements I want to make with myself but then I’m like…ehhhh yeahhhhh lets scroll on TikTok instead. We all do it bitch!!! Thankfully I have made incredible improvements with this in multiple aspects of my life.
Take this website & blog for example….it pains me that it’s not perfect, that I’m launching it with only ONE blog post when I told myself I’d launch with 20 lol. I also told myself that Thursday January 09 2025 was going to be the day I went live and THAT is what I’m choosing to make happen. Launching this site is an actionable step that moves the needle up in my life. I gave myself the deadline of January 09 2025 and even though shit’s not how I want it to be and its my own damn fault for it, I’m CHOOSING to focus on the positives instead of the negatives. Cause it IS a choice.

Here is how launching this site improves in my life:
– It’s me putting myself out into the world (I love being home and being alone reading my smutty fairy books ok! lol) I don’t even have social media anymore – that I post on or have friends on (I’m just a TikTok scroller) I know I have become so withdrawn from human connection and while its had its amazing benefits and allowed me to learn and grow so much, I know it’s time for a change and doing this is something so different than what I have ever done before, plus its something that focuses on my strengths and allows me to help others.
– Launching this site on the deadline I gave myself pushes me to do it even if it’s not perfect, even if I didn’t get a back log of posts written. I know one of my “flaws” is wanting it all done right and perfect from the start and in the past its prevented me from even starting when it comes to extremely brand new things to me. I know I’m someone who gets shit done when it comes to many other things and it’s time to apply that to the silly little dreams I have that excite me.

I built this whole ass website, added multiple features within it, did branding, made the logo and all of it with ZERO experience (can you tell?! lmao), this is a WordPress website not mother fucking WIX. I had so many aspects to learn, and I accomplished a lot in a very short amount of time and THAT is what I’m choosing to focus on.
I could easily sit here and be stressed about SEO & marketing (….so I was and that’s why I didn’t get 20 blog posts written lol) I learned a bunch about it, but I knew it was holding me back. I was focusing so much on SEO that I wasn’t showing up as myself because I was too focused on SEO, fuck I have no idea if these pages will ever rank cause I’m over here swearing, but that’s who I am. I swear when I’m passionate about something (or when I’m mad, happy, sad or hungry) and this is my blog and I want to be me and not googles SEO little bitch. I rarely drink and never do drugs so like just deal with me swearing sometimes.

So here I am writing my first post cause fuck SEO, its way past my very reasonable 7:00pm shower time… and its coming up to my bed time, but here my ass is writing out my first blog post cause it was my dumbass fault for waiting until the very last minute. My work out tomorrow morning is going to be rough one, but I’m getting it done just like I’m getting this done. It’s far from perfect and that’s very ok, I’ll learn and grow as I continue and now you get to see it happen in real time!

We are all always improving in our own ways in the only way we know how.
I know the world is a tough place with shit things, but it is equally as wonderful and beautiful if you allow it to be.

Like I have mentioned, I”M NOT a professional in any way. My life experience and learning my own strengths and weaknesses is what has allowed me to help many others. I know I don’t have any professional testimonials or reviews but I have received many comments like:

“wow you’re really good at this you should be a therapist or something”

“You were right, I wish I listened to you before”

“My life is the way it is now because of you, thank you”

“I finally did what you said and you were right”

“You should get paid for this”

lol, I KNOW this sounds like a bunch of sarcastic bullshit, but I’m being so for serious right now. Its why after years of these comments I’m choosing to do this. I love writing and I love helping people, my hermit ass won’t ever be on TikTok doing videos so I figured this was the best solution for me to go about it. For all I know I could be writing posts for no one to ever see and that’s fantastic cause at least I followed through and got it done and there’s also a chance I’ll end up being the bitch best friend that you need in your life.

So if I manage to help one person navigate their life, find solutions to their problems, help them figure out what their problems even are, then I’m very fucking thrilled about it. All I know, is I also needed to make a change so this process helps me just as much as it might help you. We can grow and become better together.

Ok, ima shut the fuck up now and make this shit live. I’m not even reading through this or messing with SEO cause ill be here for 476 more days.

Stop reading inspirational quotes and get to work!

– Guy kawasaki